My child has no idea what career they want. What should we do?

This is one of the most common worries I hear from parents. And the truth is, it’s far more normal than you think.

Many teenagers and young adults feel pressure to “have it all figured out”. But the world of work has changed. Careers are no longer linear and most people I speak to in their 40s and 50s have pivoted several times.

Often, it’s not a lack of ambition. It’s a lack of:

• Exposure to varied career options – those jobs less visible than teachers, doctors, vets and lawyers etc!

• Understanding of their strengths and what motivates them

• Confidence to make decisions

• Knowledge about what employers value

• The mistake many parents make

  The instinct is to push for quick decisions:

  • “You need to choose something.”

  • “What are you going to do one you’ve finished school/uni?”

  This can increase anxiety and avoidance… which in turn can lead to a breakdown in communication. Instead, the goal is to move from pressure to exploration.

Here are practical steps you can take.

1. Focus on strengths, not job titles

Rather than asking “What job do you want?”, ask really open questions to show genuine curiosity:

• What do you enjoy doing?

• When do you feel most confident? And energised?

• What type of problems do you like solving?

Understanding natural strengths is one of the most important areas to understand before deciding on a career path – otherwise work can feel like hard work!

2. Encourage small experiments

Young people gain clarity through experience:

• Work experience

• Part-time jobs

• Online projects

• Volunteering

• Informal career conversations

Even short experiences build confidence and insight.

3. Normalise uncertainty

Let them know it’s okay not to have all the answers. This reduces pressure and opens conversations.

4. Use structured career tools

Profiling tools such as Morrisby and strengths profiles can provide a clear picture. They highlight strengths, motivations and potential pathways.

Structured support can make a significant difference.

The goal is not to choose a career overnight.

It’s to build clarity, confidence and momentum.

Is it normal for teenagers to feel unsure about their future?

Yes. Many young people feel uncertain because they have limited exposure to real career options. This stage is about exploration rather than having everything planned.

What age should we start career guidance?

It is helpful from around Year 9 onwards. Early conversations build confidence and reduce pressure later.

Will career coaching really make a difference?

Structured support can improve clarity, confidence and decision-making. Many young people simply need guidance and encouragement to move forward.

What if my child refuses to talk about careers?

This is common. A neutral professional can often open conversations more easily than parents (because we less annoying, obviously!).

How does strengths profiling help?

It provides an objective starting point by identifying strengths, motivations and potential pathways.

If you’d like personalised support, I offer a free 20-minute introductory call to understand your child’s situation and goals. https://calendly.com/fiona-careersuccess/30min